A Blessin' from this Lesson
If you haven't already, start with Step 1 of this Forgiveness Process: How to Forgive and Why. Welcome to Forgiving Authority/Heirarchy.
So, you think your boss/teacher/parent is a penis hole. You’re not a fan of how they run things. And, you feel like they always seem to have it out for you. Well, not too far off from last week’s issue, it may not exactly be them. Let’s take a minute here.
When it was an equal, it was easy to talk about them to someone else because if you got caught, the worse that could happen would be a confrontation. But, if it’s your boss: you could get reprimanded, written up, fired, or worse, become unemployable for your next job. If it’s your professor, even though it would be completely illegitimate: you could become susceptible to harsher treatment/grading, and/or fail your assignment or class. If it's your parent...GROUNDED, CUT OFF FROM THE FAMILY, or whatever other ruling they deem worthy of you speaking up for yourself.
Have you thought of the possibility that it might just be you and blame throwing is how you choose to deflect your situation? Is it maybe or quite possible that it was your mistake, but are having problems with accepting responsibility or think accountability shouldn’t apply to you? Are you upset by these statements? Then, I may not be far off at all. This is reflection time. See Forgiving Others for tips on how to proceed.
On the contrary, you say? These statements just don’t seem to fit? Then, it’s very possible that it is your professor, boss, or parent and that it’s a sign to move on…to a new department or new job, a new class or new campus, to a spirit family, or to a new you. Again, keep it real. Don’t ask for outside opinions. Look inside to find the answer.
Think long and hard. What about what that person in the position of power is doing really agitates you? Are you being true to yourself, what you want, and YOUR desires? Are you selling yourself short or playing small? Are you holding onto resentment for something that happened to you in the past in this situation or a previous one? The best way to find out is to forgive this person and go from there.
Maybe the fact that you don’t want to support their style of leadership is a favor to tell you you’re on an unaligned path and to look into what you really want to or signed up to be doing in this life. Maybe it’s that you need to quits-the-bitchin’ and be impeccable and honorable with what you say, what you do, and how you say/do it. This is a reality check either way. So, again, be real with yourself: forgive that authority/hierarchy and see where that takes you; think deeply and come to your true answer.
Much love on this journey; it isn’t an easy one. And, as always, Lots o' Love to your Shining Light.
Step 1: How to Forgive and Why
Step 2: Forgiving Others
Step 3: Forgiving Authority/Hierarchy
Step 4: Forgiving Self
Step 5: Forgiving Situations