Are You Stuffing Kidding Me?
It is the week of what has been named a US national holiday called Thanksgiving. Some of us call it Turkey Day, some Tofurkey Day, some Thankstaking, some Friendsgiving. I like to call it Family Day. It’s the day where families and friends come together to sit down and enjoy a feast. And it. Can be. Exhausting. You’re already looking forward to the feast, but maybe not so much all the people who may attend.
So, your work days are consisting of anxious awaiting the glorious experience, or just anxiety for what you’re going to have to deal with. Either way, you’re not really present at work; your mind is elsewhere. That can ‘cause anything that doesn’t go according to plan to be blown way out of proportion. TEMPERS WILL FLARE. You don’t need NONE. OF. THAT. Yes, I did just double-negative. A negative times a negative is a positive. I’m positively sure this will help.
During your short work week or long “Black Friday” shift, which gives you less time with your loved ones, be present. Be at work. Be with your family. Be with your friends. Just be.
Set aside a planning time for all the things you want to get done before Thursday, make that your planning time. Worrying or fantasizing about something that you can’t do nothing about is not going to help the people who need you at that moment. Putting your stomach in knots isn’t going to stop that uncle from coming over. Daydreaming of all the food isn’t going to fill your tummy at that moment.
If you’re in a state of worry, you can curb that issue. If someone coming to dinner that you’re not excited about, remember, this gathering is bringing people together to be thankful, even for each other. How are you supposed to do that when Auntie Jackie doesn’t know how to quit the lip? While away from work time, this is your Joy Task:
Write down the person’s name on a paper or your phone.
Attach 1-3 good qualities about them.
You can even slap on an emoji or draw something you like.
Study what you wrote.
Let that sink in.
Prepare yourself to calm the anxiety and look forward to seeing them.
IF at the time of festivities, they are not what you wrote down, imagine that emoji moving around in place of their face.
Can’t bring yourself out of future food coma bliss? Keep those happy thoughts. However, give yourself a set time to fill your head with these coming joys. Knowing that not everybody is looking forward to this may keep you more grounded if they act out. Remember, not everyone has an awesome family or even plans for this holiday that is stuffed in everyone’s face. For you all, again, while away from work time, here is your Joy Task:
Write all the awesomeness in a journal or on your phone
Keep that joy and turn it into projects for those who are joining you or those who may not be able to have your wonderful experience.
Keep your holiday texts for those joining you - they will most definitely share your joy and keep those spirits high.
Be in your mind and body while at work. Be aware of your surroundings and those around you.
Not everyone has the same story. These practices should help you avoid being sensitive to other people's outbursts, overly positive or overly negative, that you don't vibe with (this can be a projection thing - that blog is for another time). So, focus on the task at hand. When that task is your Joy Task, let it shine as bright as you can make it.
Enjoy those in your lives. Be thankful. Keep joy. Take care.