Be Free to Be You
Society has some treasures that we appreciate greatly: Elon Musk, Lady Gaga, Childish Gambino, Trevor Noah, Cardi B, Ellen DeGeneres, Chloe Kim. But, why? Why are these people looked to as role-models? They live out loud. What is loved about these artists is that they are truly and unapologetically themselves and have been able to accomplish GREAT things.
Some people think that they are two different people when it comes to differentiating their personal lives from their student/professional lives. Are you asking if it’s Friday yet on a Monday? Yeah. For those who feel like this is a suffocating transition during work/school hours, your FREEDOM is being impeded on by none other than you. YOU are keeping you in that position. You are keeping you in that STATE OF MIND.
There are other job opportunities out there, you’re just not looking hard enough. Students, there are other majors to be focused on. Maybe you like to complain. Maybe you like to be the victim. Those who are most offended by these statements are the ones who’ve gotten cozy in this role. Because, if you changed something – job or self, you could actually be yourself and happy and have nothing to bitch about. Keep it real.
I remember a time when there were “no jobs.” I had 2, one of which was full-time. When the job market was better, I had 5 jobs, one of which was full-time. And, when I wasn’t fully feeling my major, I added a minor. How many excuses are you going to allow yourself, really?
Yes, some of you have responsibilities. I DIDN’T say to get up and quit and move yourself halfway across the country; that’s not for everyone. In short, I said, if you’re not FULLY yourself and fully HAPPY in your work/study space, make a change. Look other places or focuses of study while in your current situation. Ask around for opportunities that have exactly what you can offer and feel GREAT about. For students, talk to a counselor and let them know how you’re feeling and what you really want to gain from your experience in school.
The transition doesn’t have to happen overnight. Just get out of your comfort zone and find ways to make it work because your comfort zone isn’t exactly very comfortable, is it? And, it always will work out. Keep it mind I said, it will ALWAYS work out, NOT that it will be easy. “Believe it until you receive it.”
You’re one to easily transition from your free-self to your professional-self, but others are making judgments about how you seem different from one to the other. Well, it’s none of THEIR business; that’s YOUR business. People have many facets to them; you may be one who enjoys exploring the multitude of your awesomeness. There’s nothing wrong with being happy transitioning like a superhero with code-switching (different approaches to language for different groups of people in your life) like it ain’t no thang, then it AIN’T NO THANG. Letting people make you feel uncomfortable about the choices your happy with is also letting others impede on your freedom. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
So, how do we make moves for this one?
>If you’re feeling suffocated or start noticing how often you complain about work or school: start looking for other options and feel if you start to breathe easier just thinking about it.
>>Not breathing easier with the first option? Maybe the complaining has been your comfort zone that you need to start getting rid of – you may actually be happy where you are and with what you’re doing.
>You’re totally happy about who you are both at home and work, but others are making you question it: think about changing who you associate with. If THEY’RE not truly coming from a place of LOVE, they may be coming from a place of unhappiness in their own life and PUTTING it on you.
>>You don’t need that energy in your life. There are millions of people in your vicinity – find new friends. Love is TRULY their motive? Then, maybe you’ve convinced yourself your happy in a situation that’s not best for you.
>>Is your family throwing darts at your balloon? Change the subject when they bring it up or simply talk to them less (it can be difficult, but it may totally free your world). Again, just check where their energy is coming from.
Ultimately, if you’re not willing to at least try anything, breathe. Breathe DEEP whenever you feel negative feelings or ideas. That may be the first step in being in touch with who you are and finding your freedom.